How do you live your life when half the
things happening to you are not in your control? Must you still dream, believe
and plan or should you rather resort to indifference? What is growing up after
all? I guess it is learning to survive Life, irrespective of what happens to
you and what you make happen.
Must you give up on the quest for Mr/ Miss Right
because of a string of terrible partners? Must you ridicule Disney World and
slam it off as a mere childhood fantasy? Must you lower your ambitions in the face of a
continued onslaught of failures? Must you refuse to rest any faith anymore in
the goodness in the world?
I don’t believe in leading a sad life, I
cry so much when something big goes wrong that I soon get fed up of my own
tears and quickly move on; quickly move on remending my mistakes, amending plans
and lusting for a new aim, a different aim, a higher aim or a more challenging path
to get the same thing just gone wrong. I have wasted a good amount of my life
mourning losses and by now, well I no more tolerate the mourning period. You choose
your aim, take an aim and then you shoot! If it doesn’t hit the target, well
you shoot again, if you don’t hit it after 5 more tries you change your bows
and shoot again. Some fine day, Life takes mercy on you and your arrow hits the
bull’s eye! There are no failures on the roadway to success; every failure is a
success in knowing what not to do. If everything else fails, you at least succeed
in growing up.
Can I give you a quick tip, Mr. Reader?
Learn to love yourself! Be there for yourself through all your thicks and
thins. Understand that Life is a 50-50 partnership between you and God. Yearn
to give the whole of your half, and learn to graciously accept whatever comes
from the other half. Sometimes the other half is predatory and takes away more
than you gave, leaving you miserable. Sometimes it is so overwhelmingly
positive that it covers up for all of your sluggishness. To quantize it, both
your and destiny’s efforts can range from (-∞, +∞). If
you ensure your side is always a + ∞, you always know the downside can never be
net negative. Well, don’t go into the mathematics of Limits though; I know it’s
a rather crude analogy! Is there a logic to Destiny’s
number? Is there a probability distribution it follows? But I know for sure
that it is the same shape for every one of us, but just that the observed value
is different for everyone in a particular event and hence the different conceived
share of luck. Also, you must realize that your half and Destiny’s half are not
independent variables. I guess you can as much as affect the parameters of the probability
distribution of Destiny’s half!
But
the point is, learn to go easy on yourself. Even how much you will want to
contribute, how hard you shall work is also ultimately controlled by the will
of God. We are all here to serve some purpose in the big world, a piece of a
giant jig saw puzzle that God toys with. Don’t smirk on your efforts or feel
bad about the lack of them. It’s okay, let it be, you are a mere insignificant instrument
in the hands of God. Just love yourself, like Karina Kapoor says in Jab We Met “Mein
apni favorite hu!”
Also, lastly, live your life! Don’t lose
emotions, it would be as terrible as losing your soul, like being kissed by a
Dementor! Don’t lose hopes in the dreams you hold dear. Weep if you must. Laugh
if you can. You are a human, you were born out of love, you deserve to be
loved. Give your best to the world, be kind and forgiving. I am sure the mean
of the distribution of what the world throws back at you is a net positive
number!
